Monday, May 2, 2016

TOO MUCH TALK:


(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)



Sometimes we Talk over our feelings.. Too much talk deadens the senses..

If we explain too much then we move out of our heart and into our head and then we tend to objectify, categorise and box ourselves and others..

But When we allow ourselves to freely feel, even at the risk of taking off our suit of armour and possibly getting hurt or loosing someone, we are still opening ourselves up to adding feelings to our 'Own World'...

Who Cares about your life, You, what you do, all the tiny details of your life?? Who is recording your every move?? ..

No one is!!!!

But..

YOU ARE!!!!..

And so what ever you put into 'Your World' is what you put in to yourself..

What do you treasure? What do you look at when you are alone?.. Who are you? What do you like? What is your world???.. This is Your Permanence..

This is what you can give and share with others, this is what you can lift others with and open their eyes too, to their own worlds..

....But you don't have to analyse or explain your world, because you want to feel all the feelings in there..

You want to keep that feeling of when you loved something so much and for so long (like an art work or childhood Movie, or A family Quilt, etc)..

And then finally you got to have it!....And you said to yourself that if you never get another thing and just have this then you will be happy... Hold that!

Don't forget how you treasure things, don't devalue it and forget it and keep looking to the next thing or looking to the next person to make you happy, or thinking that your life would be better if......

Treasure what you have now.. what ever it is, places, people, objects,... Don't talk over it, or box it,.. Don't put on a hard shell in case it gets taken away.

One touch can equal a thousand explanations.. So Touch more.... Treasure more.. And talk/think less...

WEAK WILLED PEOPLE:


(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)



Some people will never do anything for themselves and never take responsibility for their consequences.. They will constantly place the responsibility on others;... on anyone who is willing to support them, so they don't have to do anything about it themselves.

They use/have a split second memory, unable to recall the consequences of their actions, how it affected others or their own lives, how much it hurt, or took away from their own lives, or how to keep their own integrity, ..

When someone has filled them up with good advice, they will talk a great game with that support, But will never actually walk it... And when they are on their own or it gets hard they throw in all they have talked about or even worked towards (with their split second memory that wipes everything) so that they can be selfish and do what they Want to do (despite affecting and hurting themselves or others)

They end up Using people and Exhausting everyone around them because they make people constantly support them and prop them up.. (work for them) And Although they may have great intentions, they end up Using good, loving people by not taking responsibility.

They Use their weakness as a manipulation to get sympathy support, love and affection.. (help me) All the things they want but aren't willing to work for or produce inside themselves.. (Like Adult Children, not willing to step up and grow up; and constantly looking for a parent/authority to tell them what to do, do things for them, and revolve themselves around them)

Eventually the Good People stop Helping, because they can't keep filling vessels that keep emptying themselves on a Whim, (no matter how much they want to help) and despite whether these 'Weak Willed' people have good hearts or not, or good intentions, they will end up being around people who just use them back, people who have no respect for them, manipulators, People who don't care, because they can't care for them; Care can't exist around a 'Weak Willed' person because by default when shirking their own responsibility; they become Users themselves and this type of selfishness never takes anyone else's feelings or health into concern and anyone who cares for them will get hurt..
We all have elements of 'Weak Will', ….All of us... And we all have a tendency to wipe our memory of the consequences, thinking that this time we can get away with it, and even the world does this to us, wipes us of our memory of what we should be doing ourselves and instead follow what others are doing... and if you don't keep up your own responsibility, you can become depressed or angry if you don't feel you fit in or have 'something' to show.. etc...

But in the end, it is a choice of Discipline and Strength to not make others Responsible and to take the reins of your own life and steer it to where you want it to go.






Monday, February 15, 2016

Don't Work If You Don't Get Paid.


(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)





Don't Work If You Don't Get Paid.

(energy, emotions, people, situations)


WATCH YOUR THOUGHTS - NO THOUGHTS, NO PROBLEMS:


From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)


 


As a discipline, ask yourself if thinking what you are thinking; giving you a Positive (giving you energy, going somewhere) or a Negative (draining your energy, going no where)

We exist beyond our thoughts or 'Status' - : Who am I? (unanswerable fear question)

We are energy; feeling...

When you were a baby, you didn't know who you were, yet you existed; and experiencing life...

In an Orgasm, do you care who you are or even that you have a body?..:) .... (pleasure)

You exist and continue to be Who You Are without having to tell yourself or anyone else who you are; and so you are Energy, … Because you are energy, you are directed by FEELING, And You will be led by where ever you Tell yourself to go.

You have the 'freedom' to Think.. This freedom is given to you, so direct it to love, tell yourself loving things, happy things, good things and make sure you direct yourself away from following dead paths or fear paths that lead you no where..

Why tell yourself you are shit at something? Why know this? Why tell yourself you got something wrong, said something wrong or that you can't do something, why even bring it up?

Aren't you worth more than giving yourself pain??

If you did something to hurt someone or did something that had a negative affect on you, you don't have to tell yourself not to do it again.. unless you are mentally disabled in some way..:).. I mean; you don't touch the hot element on the stove every day to remind yourself that it will burn your finger, and then burn your finger over and over do you??!.. So, You don't have to replay a bad 'incident over and over to 'learn', or to 'Remember'; not to hurt another, not to make yourself look bad ,not to get tricked the next time, or to plot revenge when it happens again.. You know it was bad, you Felt it and you also know by your FEELINGS that you Don't want that.. You don't have to write things down or map them out, that is why we have experiences.. You learn then move on, or repeat several times and then move on.. (generally in my case :) )

The less you talk, both inward and outwardly, the more you gain, as it isn't what you say that directs your life, it is how you feel; how you feel about yourself, others, life.. Feelings are an extension of yourself and they extend you outward too. You didn't think yourself into existence (i.e.: Mathematically thought constructed your body, hair, skin, nationality with chemical compound ratios and measurements) you Dreamed yourself in, felt yourself in and everything you have been given hasn't been the product of your controlled mind and planning, you can't control others, their decisions or what happens next, but it has been your 'Connection' to things, how you felt, how you reached out, and what was 'Drawn' to you.... That is how you decide what to do next, and where you steer your life, it comes from inspiration... joy... feeling. That is what drives you....
In fact.... You don't have to think at all, or know yourself or know anything to Exist and be magnificent, so don't think yourself out of it.. :)


IGNORING:


From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)







If you ignore it, it doesn't go away, it just leaves more work for those who aren't ignoring.






POEM: 'Reflecting Horizons' By Helen Leigh




In the journey you ride alone,
I am the mist that follows behind.
When the world gets really loud,
I'll be the quiet in your mind.
When your vibrant like a star,
I'll be watching with a smile,
You can sit in peace with me,
And you can rest for awhile.

I will be the rock you lay,
Your foundation down,
You can build your home on me,
And I will be your ground.
You can feel safe to know,
When your shining like the Sun,
I will cherish who you are,
In 'Reflecting Horizons'.

For all the times you sacrificed,
And the silent tears you shed,
For the conditional love,
That left you for dead.
I will always be listening,
With an unconditional heart,
I will protect you like the little ones,
To walk your glory path.

You can lay your foundation,
Down upon me,
You can build a solid home,
And your ground I will be,
You can feel safe to know,
When your shining like the Sun,
I will always be here,
'Reflecting Horizons'.

Wednesday, February 10, 2016

POEM: "The Girl With The Raven Hair'. By Helen Leigh



Moonlight lit the cold night air,
And showed the face of true despair,
Was such a girl embodied there,
The girl with the Raven hair.

She sat upon the seat and wept,
While the winds they blew for her bereft,
And revealed that there was nothing left,
The girl with the Sparrow breast.

With tear filled eyes soaked hopeless face,
She looked up from the deep disgrace,
And begged to change with nights embrace,
The girl with the Robins gaze.

At once the chill had left the air,
Clouds parted way and a Star appeared,
To let her know that someone's there,
For the girl with the Raven hair.

POEM: THE FINGERS OF GOD BY HELEN LEIGH





And there I lay, my back touching the Earth,

And I looked up, and Three Huge Trees were before me,

Like the three fingers of God,

Touching the Earth, Touching my Being...

And the Awesomeness of these Finger Trees,

Humbled me in their Magnificence,

As they shook and hissed with the dancing breeze.

GROW UP AND STOP USING PEOPLE:


(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)





A sign of Maturity is sharing your best with others, and thinking of others, it is, having your own life direction27, and not just taking what people give you - (like they are nothing), and then demanding every thing goes your way, including from life as well as from others.

You can't demand people say what you want, do what you want, react how you want.. Or you have the right to hate them or give them pain, or tantrum in negative anger which you think is fine to give to others because your life sucks so much it is justified..?.... How Immature, irresponsible and compassion-less??

This applies to your life also..

It is childish to get angry (have a tantrum) Cry, or become Stubborn if things aren't going your way.

Maturity lends us the advantage to listen and feel beyond our limitations it allows us to see what we are trying to achieve and who we are trying to be and so whatever is disturbing us in the present, ie: an awful job, situation or person, that this only temporary to what is going to happen, and we may even see that these problems are necessary for us to address our own hidden darkness, and flaws, and for this to be exposed into the light so that we can achieve even greater than what we are envisioning.

It is immature to make people or situations, responsible for your feelings and life, and you can't hide behind people and hold them to ransom to change your life, or guilt them into looking after you or only your interests..

Only Children 'Need' Mummy's and Daddy's to put their own feelings aside and have it be all about YOU and what you want regardless of whether other people have feelings...

Mature adults have their own life, they SHARE feelings, they don't need someone to be happy or their not happy, (“I am happy if you are happy, I am sad if you are sad”).... As a mature adult you Choose what emotion you want to give out and it is never a Negative, Self Indulgent one.

Maturity allows you realise that life is a series of letting go, not holding on, and the more you can let go, (of conditions) the more love you have.



27 'Thoughts To Make You Think' Helen Leigh

Monday, February 8, 2016

GETTING DOWN WITH REAITY:


(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)





You can't escape Cause and Affect, and YOU have to do what needs changing..

You can't Pray and think that this will somehow over-ride cause and affect, because you don't live in a fantasy, but in a causal affecting place - 'Reality'...

You can pray that your neighbours turn their loud music down at 1am and then get angry at God for not hearing your prayers, you can pray for your partner or child to get well and then get angry at karma for not giving you justice; since you always give to people and do the right thing.

Nothing will Change unless you take Action.

And although I do believe there is an 'Element Energy' that provides source elements of love, intuition, projection, …. whatever you name this element, (ie: God); this is not however a physical manifestation of a 'Magic Genie' in the clouds that can somehow grant you what you ask for.. It is a childish concept to shirk your own responsibilities for a wish, prayer or a hope (like praying to Santa Clause and then deciding you hate life when he doesn't give you what you want.. An immature concept and a 'Victimised' one.)

Shit indeed does happen, because we do live on a planet with gravity, you can fall down, and other people can trip you, they can also not tell you to avoid the hole that you are about to walk in because they are too busy looking up at the sky and praying for God to fill in the hole instead of doing the work and filling in the hole themselves! (are you feeling this parable?!)

But, what truly matters is how you decide to get up once your in the hole.. Okay, so prayer and being a good person doesn't work, then what does? ….

Having faith in yourself does, Believing that you will find a way and Actioning it, Holding on to that source Element inside you that does guide your intuition like a compass,Knowing how to use this gravity to your advantage....What is low always has the best vantage point to see how to navigate the way ahead, just like in a fire, if you aren't up amongst the smoke, and confusion, but dropped Low, the clearer the air is and the more you can see.

The Reality is that if you ignore someone(s) that is giving to you, or not crediting them, then they will stop giving to you.
If you don't appreciate what you have, it isn't that God 'The Magic Genie' will take it away or that Karma will deal with you, it is that you will simply give your things away or things will get lost or get thrown out and you won't notice, until one day you will feel like you want some love or nostalgia and look around and find you have nothing...

The greater lesson is more in how you respond to life within yourself and what you are willing to Action....
The more you can cultivate the goodness inside yourself, the more you can stop thinking negatively, the more you can cherish what you have and those that do love you or give to you that are around you, Then the more strength you will have to be able to master the gravity of Cause and Affect and navigate through life's fires.


POEMS: BLISS 1 & 2 BY HELEN LEIGH

(from - Life and Lessons Poetry By Helen Leigh)



'Bliss'

 
Sun Warmed Cheeks
Tasting Salty Lips
Listening to the Ocean
Smelling Sun Tan Lotion
Soft Sand
Under Both Hands
Stinging Eyes
Salty and Tired
A Sigh
A Smile
Sleep For Awhile



'Bliss 2'

Looking up at the clear blue sky
The fragrant scent of Daisy
Grass
Earth
Scratchy towel under bare skinned body
The buzz of a passing Bee
A tickle on your knee
you look
A Fly
Shake it off
Close back your eyes
A sigh
A smile
Sleep for Awhile

Thursday, February 4, 2016

POEM : 'LIFE IS GOOD' BY HELEN LEIGH

(from - Life and Lessons Poetry By Helen Leigh)





No matter how bad your life is
No Money, No Home
Alone
20 cents left on your cell phone
If you can dance in the shower
Using the soap as a microphone
Singing at the top of your lungs splashing for an hour
Then, Life is Good.

No matter how bleak your life looks
No Health, No Rest
Stressed
Wondering what misfortune will happen next

If you can dance in the Kitchen
Using the Cupboard door as a dance partner
Singing at the top of your lungs
Serenading the Vege-Mix Tin

Then Life is Good.

If you can sing to your Cats
Dance around in your Flat
Putting on the biggest show
Using the furniture as props for your Acts

Then you know....

Life is good.

FUTURE SELF:


(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)




If you truly want to make changes to yourself, you have to hold a future projection of who you want to be. Keep holding this projection; the feelings you want, the attitude you want, the way you want to be. Let those around you that don't like this fall away and keep holding your projection.

'It is said that one day the Buddha was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. “You have no right teaching others,” he shouted. “You are as stupid as everyone else. You are nothing but a fake!”

The Buddha was not upset by these insults. Instead he asked the young man, “Tell me, if you buy a gift for someone, and that person does not take it, to whom does the gift belong?”

The young man was surprised to be asked such a strange question and answered, “It would belong to me, because I bought the gift.”

The Buddha smiled and said, “That is correct. And it is exactly the same with your anger. If you become angry with me and I do not get insulted, then the anger falls back on you. You are then the only one who becomes unhappy, not me. All you have done is hurt yourself.”








GETTING REAL:


(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)


 


Your Anger is valid, Your middle finger is valid...
People DO and WILL use your niceness...
People DO and WILL use you and your Openess for their gain.
People Are and Will harm things, create terrible situations, create suffering, or Ignore.

Create yourself and your World how you want, but don't be ignorant.

Monday, January 25, 2016

TURN ON, TUNE IN AND...DROP OUT!


(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)




Master your 'Sleep Zones', learn that when you stop struggling against everything, that things just start to become easier and work in your favour and what you desire comes to you instead of you struggling to grab it. Metaphorically you are walking around with a clenched fist and your nails are digging into your palm and you think that by clenching tighter that the pain will go away, when in fact all you have to do is open up your hand and stretch out your fingers and ... Let Go...

Don't run the list of why, and what, happens, if you let go, just let go. The more sleep you get (as in the more switched off and relaxed you are, no thoughts, no worries, no 'things' you need or need to do) the more you can manifest what you want and desire, if you stop struggling and trying, you start to pick up on how life is really running ..on a quieter, slower, level.. The more you can switch off and relax, the more energy you feel, the more energy you feel the more you start to create ideas and feelings, the more ideas and feelings you have the more dream energy you get, and dream energy is the thing that will enable you to shape your reality into what you desire. Stop struggling for an unknown future, instead TURN ON, TUNE IN AND...

DROP OUT! ;)




IT'S YOU:


(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)




A lot of People don't realise that most of their problems/obstacles in life, or their issues with relationships etc.. is actually 'Them' and not other people.


When you are young you always blame everyone and it is always someone else doing something 'to you', and it is 'them' being flawed; But later on in life, you start to see more of your own flaws, you see that perhaps some of your problems with, relationships, jobs, finances etc... Were something 'You' were making.

For example, in your Relationships, perhaps the people in your life that ignored you or didn't give you the love you wanted; Didn't, because you were quite selfish, (self focused) or you had a bitchy/asshole side that kept sabotaging the good that you built, perhaps you didn't really have your own identity or love for yourself and so you would copy other people trying to be like them to have self esteem and be 'somebody' and in turn no one could respect you, treating you like a nobody (because in affect you were; in not creating yourself and stealing others energy) …Perhaps in the same vain, you never stuck up for anything or anyone, and would gossip with others and allow them to speak bad about another, or, would go along with it to be 'Polite', ….you would just go wherever the 'wind' took you and liked whatever anyone liked or stood up for things only when others did etc.. and in turn became this kind of 'flake' that people walked all over, or Manipulated…..because they could....... and you didn't really mean anything or give anything.

Or your jobs didn't work out because you were doing it for the title, to try to impress others, or for your own ego and as such you ended up surrounded by people who reflected ego and played: 'who has the most power wins' games, and it was something you didn't want or enjoy.

Perhaps you didn't ever become Financially Independent because you were so busy trying to be 'Rich' for your own purposes that in affect, money became valueless for you, it meant nothing, a status, and so within you, you knew it wasn't anything of real substance and so you never really dreamed or manifested anything out of it,.. With it... to use it for something greater, and so you would keep blocking it.

Once you start to realise that life is just about your own reflection, and What you are Giving Out and Making is What is being Given and Made Back to You, then you start to make changes to yourself that really give you the things that you enjoy and really see things start to change in your life.




POEM: THE SUPER-ONES BY HELEN LEIGH

(from - Life and Lessons Poetry By Helen Leigh)


Sometimes I feel a bit like Superman...
….Superwoman...
Perhaps a Stupid - Woman
In a world that beats down a Super-man
….Super- People
That's not reason-able.

You have to have a secret identity
Seen and Unseen
Blend in
Even though you don't Fit in
Act like a Citizen
Even though your a Queen...
... King
Keep your Majesty within.

Super – Duper fighting for truth against the Stupid
Silenced by the masses
Only focussed on their Assets..
…..Asses...

Being Super is a weakness
To those who wish to see less
Punishing those who clean up the mess.
Suffering
Lying
Dying
Crying
No one Caring
No one Trying
Accept the Super-ones
Are quietly changing how the World Runs.

Sometimes we forget we are all Superman
….Supermen
Super-Women
There are no Boxes to check or fill in
It's a choice, a chance
To do some 'Real' work
A 'Life' Class
Open the heart
Super-Enhanced
Recognise the Importance...
What you do is yours
And this is what you take with you
You are your own cause
And what you hold on to
Learn to stay hidden
Be a 'Clarke' when no one is listen-in'
Let them think your a fool
Unaware you have it all
Because the higher it goes
The greater the fool...
….fall....
 
I want to be a Superman...
….Superwoman...
Perhaps a Stupendous Woman
In a World that lifts up a Super-Man
...Super - People...
That's not so UN-Reasonable...?

Tuesday, January 19, 2016

MORALS:

From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)



People get confused between care and morals, and mix the two together.

Care is unconditional and allows others to do and say what they feel, but morals have conditions on everything, it restricts how people should act, say and do and dictates how they should be treated if they don't abide by moral standards.

Morals judge and blame and if you use them, you become numb.

Being Numb happens out of hardness and when we choose to use our emotions on others and become offended.

If you witness something offensive, your initial reaction is to decide that you don't like it, you then become upset and emotional and then make the decision to deal with the offender, but in having to action out your moral disgust, you then have cut off your feelings and out of your own fear and disgust, treat the offender or offence like they are a Numb-ber, this could be your family member, spouce, kids, friends, pets etc..

You go 'Numb' to teach them a Moral 'lesson'.

This is how soldiers in wars 'seemingly' kill without remorse, how torture of others happens and how Men, Women and Children are killed on mass as 'casualties of war'; objectified for a Moral Cause, because each side felt they were doing what was right and just and took all feelings out of it, they treated other human beings like objects, just as we do, when;.. say,.... in a domestic situation, when a wife catches her husband watching porn, she has an emotional reaction and then, instantly 5 or 10 + years of knowing who this man is, gets wiped and suddenly he has no feelings or point of view, he is just this one thing, and it doesn't matter how good he is in life or how well he treats her, she now has a moral obligation to say whatever she feels like and to torture him..

On a different angle, if you see a person hitting a dog, and this is something that offends you, it is still your choice to get emotional about it, you can stop the person, just as you should stop anything inflicting pain on something, but it is still your choice as to whether you Judge them or not and then start beating them as they beat the dog... It is your choice to either stop then by becoming them or stop then but still hold your feelings; love...

You can also get completely power mad with enjoyment in putting people in their places, and being up on a high horse, and some people love the drama, and negativity and forget that the reason they are doing it in the first place is to have more care and relaxation, not constant fighting in negativity, some also turn it into a way that they can talk about themselves and the great person they are, and rub it in the faces of others. (Ego)

Always go for the path that lets more love in not less, more ease and more forgiveness.

Monday, January 18, 2016

FAMILY:


(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)



If it's your Family and Friends then you stick up for them and defend them, no matter what.

If someone is telling you something negative about them, then you stop them straight away and tell them, 'No, they wouldn't do that', even if it sounds plausible or you feel you have to be polite, Don't be polite, you tell them that you don't want to hear them talking about your loved one in that way again.

If it's your family and friends then they can make many mistakes and keep making them, and you will always be there for them, not just make one mistake and their out! No matter how huge it is.

Even in your head, if they have done something that seems wrong to you, you say to yourself, 'I know they didn't mean it', defend them, have their back, even if your hurt, say it because there are always reasons why people do what they do and perhaps you misjudged them

If they need you but you can't help, then tell them that, don't pretend you can do things when you can't, but tell them you are there for them anyway..

That's why you have Family and close friends, they are the ones you tell the truth to without consequence.

They are the ones you give and receive unconditional love from.

If someone can easily talk bad about you, cut you out or pretend they are your family but are not there for you, then they are not your family.

So nurture the relationships you do have, be the one that sets the rules of how to treat one another, show others by your example of what Family really is and what it really means.


BEING SPECIAL:


(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)




Wanting to be 'Special' is selfish, it means you are willing to exclude others for the sake of you being exclusive.

It means that you want to be singled out at the expense of others because of your own insecurity.

If you need attention from someone go get it, don't hold people to serve only you and think of only you, or your Out.

Don't hold someone to like just you, how boring for them; and for you.



Life is about sharing ..

Inclusion.. Not exclusion

REVOLVING AROUND YOURSELF:

 
(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)
 



When everything revolves around you and only your perspective and how you feel, then that is all you will have room in your life for... You.





RESPONSIBILIY:


(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)



Take responsibility for yourself, learn how you function best and don't be flippant about how you need to be treated or how you need to treat yourself.

Look to what you want in life, and want to get out of life, what your bigger picture is and what is necessary in it, or what you need to change (including yourself) in order to get what you most desire.

And Take responsibility for it.




 

POEM - LOVE PART 1 & 2 BY HELEN LEIGH


(from - Love and Appreciation Poetry By Helen Leigh)




'Love' part 1
By Helen Leigh

My heart beat flickers, then it quivers,
And as the beat quickens,
So the rise of love begins,
And the endorphins like in dolphins,
Emerging from the water,
Spraying salty drops like sequence,
And so it begins,
In a shower of diamonds,
We are without ends,
And our path only bends,
When we turn our heads,
But thats just the light refracting,
And within that attracting,
The facets shine a million reflections divine,
And all within your eye, you shine,
Share with me yours,
And I'll share you mine,
Let love be you guide.


‎'Love' Part 2
By Helen Leigh

Run to the edge with me,
And feel the rush of expectancy,
When the tendancy Is to hold back, Just let go,
I'll hold you close to me.
Life is your intention, Not for tense-In',
Lay down your pretention,
Because the real you is the lesson.

Anything you want you can have,
There's a rainbow in your bag,
And it's up for grabs.

The silver lining its always there,
Inside you shining,
And what is missed isn't lost,
It was just the timing.

So run with me my friend,
'Cause there is no edge,
And the ledge?
It's pretend...

And all will unfold,
In the perfectness as it was,
As it is,
From beginning to end.

Friday, January 15, 2016

APPREICATION:


(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)

 
 
Your ultimate goal should be to only see what you want out of life.
The highest form of living is living in appreciation.

So whatever is given to you in your life, perhaps an item that you have wanted for months but then forget about it the next morning? Dis-Acknowledge it. Then you are not living in appreciation and this split second reality that holds no value for you, will not serve you, it will depress you deeply and make you feel empty.

The goal is to feel more; follow your feelings.


BE EASY:


(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)



People always think that pushing harder or trying more will get them over their obstacle or help them achieve happiness, but it is in fact the opposite....

You can't get Happy from 'Trying' to be happy, Happiness only comes when you stop Trying.


POEM: 'Winds Of Change' - By Helen Leigh


(from - Life and Lessons Poetry By Helen Leigh)



Blow the winds that send gusts streaming,
Through the night were stars lay gleaming,
Force the change of fortunes seeming,
Turning lifes low lamp to beaming.

Misty moss beneath your hiding,
Come forth now from your green binding,
The earth does celebrate your timing,
Emerging with your silver lining.

Clouds will part with rains receeding,
Light will shine like crystal dreaming,
You will have what your believing,
Within the bonds your souls receiving.

Wednesday, January 13, 2016

BE AN INSPIRATION:


(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)


If there is someone in your life that is Hurting, Sick, or Having Huge life Problems, don't get scared and make it about your feelings.

Your instinct is to run when you see someone close to you facing something big, but Instead, think about them, think about how you can inspire them to carry on.

If you don't run away from someone and their problems you may be the very person to change their lives and watch them be a success instead of a victim.

Don't think of someone's illness or hardship as a burden on you and how sad you feel or how much pity you feel, think about how you can inspire them to use what they can do, instead of focusing on what they can't and how it makes you feel; make them feel better, think about their feelings; not your own.

If someone can't walk, get them to write, if someone can't write, get them to speak.

Don't throw others under the bus and walk away; just because you aren't in their position doesn't make them less than you, see a need and be the catalyst for change in another, you never know who you may be helping, could be someone who changes the world ….. Or you could be saving yourself.





POEM: MOON WISDOM - By Helen Leigh


(from - Life and Lessons Poetry By Helen Leigh)



The Sun laid the last of it's rays upon the Leaves,
And all became silent as the Night starts to breathe,
The Clouds now just tipped with a fading crimson hue,
Giving vibrancy to all, in Technicolor view.

And this is how it starts,
When The Moon is in View,
With the Path laid out ahead,
And so is what to do,
This is what to do.

The Pearl Moon bobs upon the Waves of Night,
Dousing the World with it's tides of black and white,
The Flowers now bathed in sleepy purple -grey,
Bow their heads in Moon Glow, as the Dream-boat casts away.


And this is how it starts,
When The Moon is in View,
With the Path laid out ahead,
And so is what to do,
This is what to do.


The Dawn it now Arises with a slow and steady ease,
Lighting the road ahead, a flapping ribbon in the breeze,
Taking Moon Time Wisdom, and the dreams the night has laid,
Awakening with the fire, of the golden Sunrise rays.


And this is how it starts,
When The Moon is in View,
With the Path laid out ahead,
And the Sunrise gives the new,
And you know what to do,
This is what to do.

Monday, January 11, 2016

YOUR LIFE MATTERS:


(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)



Always hold yourself accountable, do what's right, keep your integrity, look after yourself and your body, do what is the best for you..

**** Even when no one is watching you*****

Don't ever think your life doesn't *mean* anything; even if it means nothing to anyone else, make it mean something TO YOU!

Even if no one cares for you, or no one remembers you or your life or what you have done or gone through, go and Have your OWN Life!

Record your own experiences, make your own goals and achieve them, because YOU always matter.

You are on this journey alone, despite the fact that you have people all around you, you may even be greatly influential, but this is still your journey, your experiences, and no one can experience your life with you and see through your eyes, and at some point in life whether early or late in your years, you will experience time on your own, perhaps feeling lost because you relied on others or your Job to 'fill in' your life for you, but instead of viewing this as a bad thing, use it as a blessing to really experience life the way YOU want it. Use it as a way to find out what you really like to do; to connect with what makes you happy.....

There is a reason we are here to experience life and we do take what we know with us when we go; what we did, what we will be held accountable for, and what we learned...




POEM: 'THE ANGEL QUEEN' - By Helen Leigh

(from - Imagination and Playfull Poetry By Helen Leigh)




The Angel Queen was born from a Star,
When the Moon was newly made,
It's luminescent glow shone on to the Star,
And the Queen was the Gift it gave.

She Travelled to Earth to protect it from harm,
And all that upon it tread,
She is the sound of the Wind, the rhythm of the Rain,
And the voice inside your head.

She is; In form, just 1 inch tall,
No bigger than a Bug,
Her Wings are made from Snail Shells,
For her, they now are Slugs.

The Wings are bound by The Spider Queen,
As there is no finer thread,
And her Wisdom and Magic is patterned in them,
With the Instinct of All Unsaid.

Her Hair's the Eyelashes that fall when we Laugh,
And her dress; The first Hair that we Shed,
She's the keeper of Souls, and makes us Great,
And the giver of our Road Ahead.

In her left hand she holds a Pencil; Carved,
From the root of the Tree of Knowledge,
In her right is a Book, she writes on the World,
Transforming our Fears into Courage.

This Pervasive Queen, like the Stars overhead,
Watches over us wherever we are,
Spins the Earth on its Axis, And tilts it a bit,
If we need it a little Ajar.

Sunday, January 10, 2016

LIFE


(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)



Next time your out, make a conscious effort to take a look at the people around you, and recognise that they each have lives, things to do, places to go and be, likes, dislikes, feelings...

...And when someone cuts you off on the road, and it pisses you off, and you get angry at that: 'Idiot' or that 'Some - 'Thing' that got in your way, just remember they still have lives and are still feeling beings, just like you..

It is not to say that you shouldn't correct someone who is doing wrong or could potentially hurt someone, but Objectifying anything, whether it be a person, or animal, is a kind of numbness that takes away love and appreciation from your life, it also gives you licence to hurt another for doing wrong to you, and to not acknowledge that they have feelings also... This is not the way an evolved person looks at another.. This is exactly how Wars are made, and how people can kill one another, how Animals are put in cramped cages and killed inhumanely..

Through objectifying there is no remorse or compassion, and without compassion there is no love, and only where Love is, is where Life is.






POEM - 'The Higher You Go The More You Bounce' - By Helen Leigh

(from - Life and Lessons Poetry By Helen Leigh)
 

Get down on the ground,
The higher you go,
The more you bounce.

Make a superfluous fascade of lust,
Throw your neighbour under the bus
 Ignore their pain,
Focus on what you can gain.

What do you think will come of this?

When all is lost that you dismiss,
And when you look it cant be found,

Because the higher you go,
The more you bounce.

People are ignoring,
objectifying and warring,
being completely boring,
Numbing the senses in senselss exploring.

As long as you look good that's all that matters,
People are only good for climbing ladders,
keep getting fatter on flatterers,
 
Because with every pound,

The higher you go,
The more you bounce.

Get down on the ground,
What goes around doesn't make a sound,
if you don't go up,
your soul will be found.

Because the higher you go,
The more you bounce.


Friday, January 8, 2016

FLIPPING DEPRESSION


(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)

 
Depression, Sorrow, Anxiety are not a 'Mystery' they definitely have a cause and affect and a completely logical explanation, they are not something out of your control, they do not surprise attack you, and like all afflictions, it is always a result of something you are doing or not doing or overdoing; and you do have control over how you feel, even if you 'Think, you, Feel, you don't'.

Everyone has experienced Depression, it is common and a natural response. If it was more embraced than feared and we were taught about how to manage our feelings in our society, rather than pretend we are fine and put on an ego face; (that somehow being happy and having 'things' means you are superior) then depression would surely not be as bad and so extreme in its consequences. So in saying this;

The simple cause of depression is that you are Wanting or Desiring something you can't have, it is loss, even if you feel their is no direct reason, you are perhaps doing too much or struggling to get something, weather physical or emotional, and your body is telling you to slow down and stop.

But no matter the reason The cure is simple for both Depression and Anxiety, which is: Discipline and Switching off (rest)

When you feel low you loose energy and this makes you susceptible to what is around you, you don't have the energy to batten off negativity and reassure yourself/council yourself into feeling better, you loose perspective, the bigger picture, some rational thinking... and so your mind will take on and think negative thoughts. You will feel lazy, unmotivated, and victimised... But the more rest you can have and the more you can switch your mind off, the more energy (immunity) and creativity you will have....So instead of fighting the laziness, and the lack of energy, Use it to Relax, turn it into self care, use it to stop thinking.. just stop being bothered thinking all the crap, and being 'Somebody', and with everything you do, do it with this slowness you feel, embrace it, it is after all your body's way of telling you to slow down so that it can get it's immunity and strength back...

Then start to discipline yourself and your thoughts. Every time you think something negative, tell yourself that, that was a garbage thought and throw it out, think of your body like a room that you sleep in; don't fill the walls of your room with negative pictures, fill your room with happy pictures, good things.

Every time you put up a negative picture (think a negative thought) replace it with what you want to see and appreciate.
So every negative thought you think, replace it with a positive thought or of something you appreciate, discipline yourself to catch yourself out on every negative thought, and even if it takes you 5 minutes to think of something good to replace the bad thought with, don't let one negative slide, eventually it will become just as much a habit of thinking positive as it has thinking negative. And you will find that when negative things do happen to you in your life, you will actually have enough strength and composure to deal with it, .. You may even be so present in such a bad circumstance that you save someone else from a nasty turn, or perhaps even save their lives.

.. And You will come to find yourself sitting happily in this wonderful room inside yourself, like a Retreat or an Oasis to rest in....

And so what follows is instead of thinking about what you don't have or can't do, you start to think about what you can do and what you do have...

Fill yourself up, Fill your life up, take responsibility for your own life, Take Charge!!!!!

Start something new, maybe learn a language, start writing something, poetry, a story, go to the library and get a whole stack of books and read one a week, learn to draw, download a graphic art program, start collecting your favourite music, or DVD movies and watch and listen to one a day, learn to cook, sew clothes, build motorbikes, etc.. Do one thing that you can work on and get real good at it and form a connection/bond to it, and then build/learn/collect more things from there...

Don't ever think your life doesn't mean anything; even if it means nothing to everyone else, make it mean something TO YOU! Have your OWN Life!


And if you must compare to others to feel better, just think; while you feel like life is such a struggle, there is someone out there living on the street in a box, alone with no family, no one to love them, no possessions, not knowing where their next meal is coming from, scraps of clothing, no shoes, …... There is someone out there who can only afford one meal a day, living on 2 minute noodles, there is someone struggling through severe illness, or is blind, can't walk... etc etc...

And if you just read this and felt better, whether you are depressed or not, that should indicate to you that YOU can change YOUR feelings at any stage by what you think and what you tell yourself, it means feelings are impermanent and can change and when you reflect of what you have already overcome then you know that you can overcome this and anything that comes your way, just as you have done before, you have and carry the power to change how you feel and succeed for yourself.

****Rest – (relax on the couch, clear your mind and take up mediation – I have written out a basic mediation below)

****Replace every negative thought with a positive one – (Fill the room inside yourself with good pictures)

****Gain a new skill or connection to something -(Grow your OWN LIFE)



11 'Thoughts To Make You Think' Helen Leigh

POEM - 'Who Do You Want To Be'? - Poem By Helen Leigh


(from - Life and Lessons Poetry By Helen Leigh)



I'm not going to write of Politics and Economy,
I see no reason to bitch about the;
Who, What, Whys and Wanna-be's,
This loop has been repeating for decades and centuries,
And now it's time to stop and take stock of all your pleasantries.

I wish I didn't know what down and out was like,
Or that I know, there are those,
Who strive to make you fight,
What I do want to say is that the only thing you have,
Is yourself and your heart,
And your will to expand.

I wonder why we make the world as small as ourselves,
The limits and the Boundaries,
The mind-numbing hells.
I will never understand why we always feel inadequate,
Like the 'Sure' is unobtainable,
And we compare like we can't handle it.

Why must we feel down if we are not recognisable,
Why must our achievements be of material appraisal,
What is the real and the truth and the free,
What does it mean to be more than just a being.

These are the questions that loop for decades and centuries,
The real: Who, What's, Whys,
And the people you really Wanna-be.

Thursday, January 7, 2016

TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOUR DISADVANTAGES


(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)




Instead of feeling sorry about what has happened or is happening to you, learn from it.

Instead of hiding in your problems, feeling victimised and sorry for yourself, use them as tools to help others and improve yourself and Life.

Use your experiences, to form character and change the bad things in your life into blessings for others.

Without the experiences/obstacles we all face, we would not know how to treat others in a similar position to us, and so instead of overcoming them and then running away; pretending we never experienced the hardship, if we instead develop compassion and understanding, we can create more love.

Most times without learning compassion we don't get to see what our Soul's calling is and who we are supposed to be.
When we stop blaming everyone else, and instead think: 'What is my part in my problems? and how can I change myself?'
Then we can actually start 'doing' something of real value with the precious lives we have been given.

Most people .. Have Huge Potential ...Unrealised.

So use everything that comes your way as something to grow from and gain strength from to become formidable in both character and action.


**** (as an add to this)*****

Learn to always tell the truth even if it feels bad to do so, or you look bad, like a looser,
and even if you don't get personal revenge in doing so; tell the truth when the odds are stacked against you and people won't like you telling it; but YOU get to hold this strength of Character and a faith in yourself, what you are doing, who you are, and who/what you stick up for/ value.

Turn your overwhelming weakness into your abominable strength.


POEM - 'Seen' - By Helen Leigh


(from - Life and Lessons Poetry By Helen Leigh)



When no one else sees you, the Universe does,
And the silence of you will be heard.
When no one accepts you, the Universe does,
And hangs on your every word.

You may not be noticed at all right now,
But The Universe notices you.
And When the time comes, the Universe will reveal;
Yourself to be noted and viewed.

So just be at ease and enjoy this time,
Of the invisible beauty you see.
Because the Universe will tap on your shoulder; one day
To reveal You when your ready.

Wednesday, January 6, 2016

VICTOR OR VICTIM

(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)



There are two ways you can handle your problems: Victor or Victim Mentality.

A Victim, implodes, takes the problem personally like it is a reflection on them and as an attack and then keeps, 'TRYING' to either make it better or be understood and usually to the something that caused this problem in the first place that doesn't care, which results in the Victim becoming Emotional: Angry, Hysterical, Depressed or violent.
There is no detached awareness.

The Victor Mentality, see's the problem and knows where it is coming from and doesn't react.
The Victor Stands their ground and does not entertain the problem, but instead waits, watches and then resolves it having analysed how the problem is coming in.

POEM - 'The World Is A Consciousness' - By Helen Leigh


(from - Life and Lessons Poetry By Helen Leigh)



Some people sift for dirt and Some people sift for gold,
Why are you Inversion Building,
When you can Extricate,
In love exertion.

And the world is a conciousness
I hold in my hand,
The fist or the palm,
The freedom or the damned.

Some people see the strange and Some people see the abstract,
What you see as a weakness,
Is your own reflection,
To see less.

And the world is a conciousness
I hold in my hand,
The fist or the palm,
The freedom or the damned.

Your hard-hearted way is no longer good here, good day,
No day,
One day,
To-day,
The light is seen only when you look at it,
Make a way.
Where there is none,
Some
People look the fist and some people look at the palm,
Why are you duality charade-ing
You have the emperors new clothes,
That you're parading.

And the world is a conciousness,
We hold in our hands,
It takes just one with love,
Like the sun,
To give that freedom run,
Believe it can.

Monday, January 4, 2016

POEM - 'There's a place for you' - By Helen Leigh


(from - Life and lessons Poetry By Helen Leigh)




*There is a place for you,
A gap and a space for you,
And you can drop all your attitude,
The act is so cool,
But I'm telling you,
In this space,
It's Unconditional.

Rewind it back,
In a head nodding atmosphere,
Where yes,
You are the best,
And there is no trying here,
And where you go,
And how you flow,
Is now crystal clear.

Your core truth is a sword,
Protection or pain,
Depends on your skill,
On your word,
On your name,
You're brighter than the Sun;
Stronger than a hurricane.


The place is here for you,
Waiting for your follow through,
Your luck is standing by,
For its happy-go cue,
It's in your hands,
Make a stand,
Speak your Truth.