(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com - Chapter One - Personal Development)
A sign of Maturity is sharing your best with others, and thinking of others, it is, having your own life direction27, and not just taking what people give you - (like they are nothing), and then demanding every thing goes your way, including from life as well as from others.
You can't demand people say what you want, do what you want, react how you want.. Or you have the right to hate them or give them pain, or tantrum in negative anger which you think is fine to give to others because your life sucks so much it is justified..?.... How Immature, irresponsible and compassion-less??
This applies to your life also..
It is childish to get angry (have a tantrum) Cry, or become Stubborn if things aren't going your way.
Maturity lends us the advantage to listen and feel beyond our limitations it allows us to see what we are trying to achieve and who we are trying to be and so whatever is disturbing us in the present, ie: an awful job, situation or person, that this only temporary to what is going to happen, and we may even see that these problems are necessary for us to address our own hidden darkness, and flaws, and for this to be exposed into the light so that we can achieve even greater than what we are envisioning.
It is immature to make people or situations, responsible for your feelings and life, and you can't hide behind people and hold them to ransom to change your life, or guilt them into looking after you or only your interests..
Only Children 'Need' Mummy's and Daddy's to put their own feelings aside and have it be all about YOU and what you want regardless of whether other people have feelings...
Mature adults have their own life, they SHARE feelings, they don't need someone to be happy or their not happy, (“I am happy if you are happy, I am sad if you are sad”).... As a mature adult you Choose what emotion you want to give out and it is never a Negative, Self Indulgent one.
Maturity allows you realise that life is a series of letting go, not holding on, and the more you can let go, (of conditions) the more love you have.
27 'Thoughts To Make You Think' Helen Leigh